Divorce and Financial Self-sufficiency
February 16, 2022
Online Divorce and premarital agreements are not mutually exclusive. You can file for divorce through an online platform even if you have a premarital agreement. Of course, if neither party intends to contest it.
What’s in a pre-nuptial agreement? What’s the purpose of it? Is it all about expectation of failure, or does it deal with more positive issues and can it feel good, not bad, to negotiate all the terms and make your decisions together? See the checklist in my book, “Just in Case! Lose your heart, not your mind” for the essential elements of a pre-nuptial agreement.
A few thoughts on the subject:
Firstly, give yourself time. I cannot stress this enough. Ideally, you should give yourself 6 months. You should be very conscious of your sense of self and self-protective instincts when you’re working out the details of the agreement. Avoid the pitfall of “over-willingness” – being anxious to sign anything and everything that your partner asks, to “prove” that you’re all about love, not money. And don’t let yourself be shamed or intimidated into leaving out provisions that you know are important, out of a fear of seeming too concerned with money or rights to property down the line. It’s all about fairness, and there’s no fairness if one party’s interests are favored over the other. Know your worth, keep a level head, be practical and truthful, and employ the services of a trusted family law professional to keep the process productive and even-handed.